Virtual Happy Hour and Mango Margaritas

I am SUCH a crazy mad woman when it comes to community. It really should be my middle name. Although “Naomi Community Hattaway” wouldn’t roll off the tongue very well. Anyway.

At lunch recently with the Husb, I told him that our new goal in life should be to find friends that we can grow old with. We have loads of amazing friends sprinkled all over the world, but I mean ones that we can go have mango margaritas with at lunch when we are 75 (true story from today at Red Lobster. I should have taken a picture of this crew … they were precious!) or meet up for the matinee showing of the latest movie when we are 90.

I miss after-school happy hour with my girlfriends in Delhi and Singapore … and miss my Binkies & Beer with the ladies in Ohio (not to mention coffee mornings and Dinner Delivered with the other mamas) … and don’t get me started on my small tribe here in Orlando that is always up for gettin’ into some kind of trouble.

My online tribe is gaining traction though and pulling up the rear with a strong “we’re here too!” and I’m so excited to be participating in a Virtual Happy Hour and Mango Margaritas with Regina of By Regina and Maru of FashionyFab. Those that are participating are sharing some tips via video, pouring a cocktail, and then watching the other videos. I’ll have red wine, please?

Each month features a new topic and I’ve chosen this one:

Virtual Happy Hour with By Regina

 

Now … this is the SECOND video I’ve done for the blog and while it’s not perfect, it is pretty authentic AND super streamlined as I did it in one take. Also? What’s up with the time lag on the audio and the video? Weird. Anyway, take me as I am, friends, stuttering over words and looking off-camera WAY too much! I give you, “Five easy ways to get our blog ‘show ready'”

Virtual Happy Hour from Naomi Hattaway on Vimeo.

What do you think? Next month, I wont’ be rushed and will try to use less “ums” and definitely won’t get up halfway through to adjust my clothing (awkward?)

(bonus points for noticing my awesome foreign coin jewelry … blog post coming up about those!)

Check out our hosts’ blogs for some great stuff : Regina from By Regina and Maru from Fashiony Fab and the other two gals participating, Brooke and Jennifer 

 

Do you have any tips for getting show ready, whether it’s a house on the market or a blog?

 

 

The Freaks Shall Inherit the Earth by Chris Brogan {a review}

I have always been an avid reader. I’ve always carried around two things, ever since I can remember and from what my family tells me, even before I can remember: at least one book and a notebook/journal. I also have an innate way of being able to connect people with like-minded people, whether it be for a project or potential friendship. I spot typos like you wouldn’t believe (a totally annoying “talent”) and I function best when I have the majority of my day to myself, in the quiet (or with music playing).

I am really good at providing counsel and propelling people to get s#!* done. I get insanely worked up about lack of diversity in marketing campaigns (hello to non-profit organizations who fail to acknowledge diversity in every dang thing that you do!) and social injustice. I get emotional about those who are stuck in the poverty cycle and especially those who were born in places where they are not honored or educated because of the color of their skin or their gender.

This, among a whole long list of other weird traits and personality quirks means that I am a freak. And the freaks SHALL inherit the earth!

The Freaks Shall Inherit the Earth

I recently read the latest book by Chris Brogan, called The Freaks Shall Inherit the Earth and I was hooked right off the bat. I’ve been getting really tired of the overkill of the latest buzz of media, manuals, self-help books and how-to websites out there to help people find their passion, discover their purpose in life and create the business they were meant to establish.

It’s all super insular and reminds me of a cavern. You get sucked into this advice and their voices and all of the things they say you should be doing and it just can be too much. You can’t remember how you got down into the cavern and the way out isn’t very obvious. I totally acknowledge that this chatter obviously works for loads of people, but it wasn’t clicking for me. I was finding myself really frustrated, overwhelmed and even saddened by the fact that it just didn’t FIT ME. I don’t really WANT to write a bunch of ebooks or link up with the big blogging networks for their advertising schemes. I don’t think it gelled with my style to start accepting gigs that don’t make me so excited that I holler “Hell yeah!” in response as opposed to a weak “I guess” because that’s what ‘they’ all said was the right business / marketing path.

Then I read this book (and yes, I read it three times because I wanted it to all really soak in). It was a big exhale, a subsequent breath of air and then a rush of relief.

Finally, FINALLY someone is paying homage to the fact that connections, community and collaboration REALLY matter in this big thing called life. When those things matter in life, they also matter in business. It matters that you find the people who you would serve, even if they can do absolutely nothing FOR YOU in return. It’s not all hype, fast talk and linking up. It’s Monchu.

(see below for the awesome description of Monchu)

My words won’t do his any justice, so I am simply going to share just a couple of my favorite pieces of the book. If I had purchased a hardcopy instead of a kindle version, it would be full of color due to all of the highlighting. Lucky for me, kindle makes it super awesome to do the very same thing while reading.

On Authenticity and Sharing YOU ||

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On Community ||

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I may be *this* close to scheduling those motorcycle license endorsement classes! Ride on!

On Fellow Freaks ||

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On Quitting ||

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On Success ||

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On Time and Organization ||

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Three cheers for this! I yell it from the rooftops with those who work with my Egads program.

But I love that this is reframing it, mastery not management. Can I borrow that new terminology, Chris?

 

On Expanding ||

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On the naysayers and poop-slingers ||

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On Life in General ||

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If you’re still with me at the bottom of this review, it’s worth your time to also listen to a great interview of the author by Terry Brock:

 

Chris’ book is available on Amazon in hardcover and for your Kindle. If you read it, I would totally love to know what you think about it!

Which of the quotes / thoughts above are your favorites? Let’s chat in the comments.

(Interestingly enough, Amazon is saying I can loan my kindle book to ONE person for a period of 14 days … I’ll do a random draw next week from the comments so that one of you lucky readers can take advantage of the loan! Cool, huh? Or you may be an impatient freak like me and would rather just purchase your own copy. That’s ok too!)

I’m a #proudfreak

 

 

Schedule Some Happy

Are you finding yourself in a slump? Daydreaming about spending some time on yourself? Wishing the sun was always shining? SCHEDULE SOME HAPPY!

 

HAPPY

The ultimate most fantastic way to get yourself boosted up a bit is to literally schedule some events or outings for yourself. It doesn’t mean you have to spend a lot of money, give a lot of time or even break a sweat. Another super fast way to inject some happy is to change up your perspective.

1. Add a lunch date (with yourself) on the calendar and go check out the new deli that just opened up in your neighborhood. If you’re not available to take yourself to lunch today, excuse yourself from the rigors and go grab a coffee. Treat yourself to something you wouldn’t normally order.

2. Pick an upcoming early evening and surprise your spouse, significant other or best friend with a happy hour at that spot that you both love. The reason for it? Just because! Even though the event isn’t today, the happy surge you’ll receive just from planning it will be worthwhile.

3. Call a friend! Send a two line email to someone you haven’t talked to in awhile and just say “I was thinking about you today.” Or if you have even more time, send a piece of snail mail!

4. Light a candle and turn on a playlist you haven’t listened to in awhile. Need a suggestion for some music? Check out some of my playlists or listen along to this one:

(bonus points for actually getting UP and dancing)

5. The last super easy suggestion is to open the blinds in your home / office, go for a quick 10 minutes walk around the block and look for ONE thing you can take a photo of (your toenails crossing the sidewalk crack, a funky leaf on a tree, the corner of a license plate or even a selfie!)

 

What do you suggest to inject some happy into your day? 

My Ideal Reader

Note: this post was a bit difficult to write and finish, which normally isn’t the case for me. Holding my breath while I type!

I’m a self-proclaimed “ass kicker” (although why doesn’t it seem to ever work with my own children?). I am fairly confident in my skills when it comes to motivating, hand-holding and helping people problem solve. I have developed the ability to say no, learned how to menu plan and I know what passion feels like. I also know how to make a difference in the lives of others and am a pretty good multi-tasker. I can sidle up next to someone and say “I’ll help you with that” and together, we rock the project.

Balloon image from Linh Nguyen

Image credit : Linh Nguyen, from Unsplash.com

I have a pretty decent CV, so to speak, of the things I’ve accomplished in my life. I know how to GSD (Get S*** Done) as evidenced in my volunteerism with Room to Read in Singapore, Make a Difference in Delhi and even when I started the Chagrin Valley Mom’s Running Club with Jen back in the day. I am a natural ‘gatherer of people’ and as one of my friends calls it, a collector of vagabonds. I have been mailing pick-me-up notes to friends for years and I have used my (annoying) talent at seeing mistakes and typos to the benefit of others with several editorial projects as well as proofing and editing several books.

I have been weirdly obsessed lately with figuring out a way to really hone in on WHAT it is that I can be known for.

I want to FIND and figure out that set of things that I can capitalize on, learn more about and then spread the knowledge to others. I have recently discovered, that if I could be known for something, it would be my ability to:

1. help women bridge the chasm to their big dream

2. help fund / connect others to impact world change

3. organize a tribe of women who have realized their greatness

Does that sound weird to you? It does to me. I mean, I feel a bit cocky when I write that all out. (We don’t often give ourselves kudos, do we?)  In the process of pulling all of this together, I came up with a profile (of sorts) for what my Ideal Reader might be, here on the blog. In reality though, the term Ideal Reader really just means tribe member. I’ve realized where I want to focus my efforts on for the women that I can impact with my life and what I have to offer.

I’m changing things up over here dramatically in the coming months in terms of how this space LOOKS but it won’t FEEL that differently.  It might mean that you  – my current readers – will identify with some of the bullet points below, or you may not find yourself in any of them. What it hopefully means is that as I work towards really putting my ideas into place, the list below will allow me to have a streamlined focus that allows me to use my greatness and gifts to help others.

My ideal reader is:

  • ready for change
  • not one with a large budget or checking account balance
  • desperate for an end goal
  • a girl (no guys!)
  • already aware of her greatness (in some aspect of her life)
  • not in need of a shrink
  • a badass at heart
  • a current or future friend of mine
  • willing to listen to me
  • actively sharing my vision to always strive for better
  • in need of my help for accountability purposes
  • a sucker for spontaneity
  • in love with freedom and planned organization
  • wanting to learn how to better “do it all”
  • realizing “this is no longer working for me”
  • a fan of women who GSD, volunteer and “have been there”
  • a lover of music
  • able to agree that #1 she doesn’t know how to make the leap #2 just needs a couple of steps up #3 it is time for her to soar and #4 she needs to fly

Ok. I’m breathing now. That was a bit vulnerable to put out there. It always feels so liberating though to finally *say it* though, I think. So I’m doing just that. I welcome feedback and your thoughts on this concept, my goals, and the bullet point list of what I think why my Ideal Reader might be.

Although that’s the last time I’ll call her the Ideal Reader. I think tribe member sounds MUCH more on point, don’t you?

This post was inspired by the Braid course : Dream Customer Catching which starts on June 20th.